Shame is feeling unworthy. Guilt says, “I did a bad thing,” while shame says, “I am bad.” There is a huge difference between a saint repenting of sin, and always feeling like a sinner. Shame erodes the core of our identity, so that we feel devalued, insignificant, deficient – worthless.
Shame is the belief that we are uniquely and fatally flawed; that we will never measure up to the standard for acceptance and approval. Shame declares that we are doomed for disappointment and disconnection.
“If others see the real you, they won’t accept you.”
“You are not good enough”
“You need to prove that you’re O.K. by doing more and getting it right”
“You are going to be embarrassed, humiliated, rejected, punished – alone”
“You will never overcome, succeed, prosper, flourish – thrive”
Ultimately, shame seeks to derail us from our […]