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We are pleased to announce the release of Roger’s new eBook “The Evidence Is In, Volume II.”  All of our eBooks are available to download free of charge from our website.

Here is Evidence #2:

THE EVIDENCE IS IN: Victimization diminishes a person’s potential and quality in life.

Have you ever stopped to think about how many different ways a person can be victimized?  I’m especially thinking about wounding events.  Contrary to popular belief, which is secular, wounding or victimization doesn’t just go away.  The ignorant and simple minded will say things like, “time will heal it, just get over it, buck up, be strong, put it behind you; it’s time to forget it and get on with your life, or think about something else.”  REALLY!

One of the negative impacts of victimization that […]

Now by this title you are probably thinking that I’m about to announce a three day seminar for married couples. That’s logical, but you would be wrong! I’m thinking about marriage training that takes place in the marriage relationship as husband and wife do life together. The more I think about it, the more complicated it gets!
Think about it with me. If you say something or do something and your spouse bites your head off and hands it back to you on a platter, do you think maybe you should learn from the experience? That’s potential training. If you behave a certain way in public or in front of company and your spouse gives you the silent treatment for three to seven days (the […]

Here is another “Growing Old Gracefully” tale. I’m laughing now, but earlier this morning I was NOT laughing!

In my 74+ years, I have never had the experience of operating a home security system. Oh, I’ve seen the security pads on the wall of houses I’ve been in, but never had the experience of operating one. This week we have been house and pet sitting for the family we are staying with. The big house across the yard is equipped with a security system, so before our friends left Monday on vacation, we sat down with him and he gave me instructions on how to operate the system. Being one of due diligence, I carefully wrote all the instructions down. Monday through Thursday went off without a hitch. I relaxed a […]

If someone asked you if you accepted and loved yourself, how would you respond? In counseling hundreds and hundreds of people over the years, the more frequent response is, “Not so much.”

We invite you to embrace the following declaration of who you truly are. Read it slowly aloud and remember that what you are reading is in full agreement with what God says about you.

I am me. I am made in the very image of God, just a little lower than the angels. I am unique. In the entire world there is no one exactly like me. This means that I am important to God.

I can accept myself because God accepts me. I can love myself because God loves me. I know that I matter because God sent his Son, […]

I recently counseled with a very bright and engaging mid-aged couple. Tom’s a seminary professor and Mary (not their real names) is a psychologist. Despite their intelligence and education, they could not resolve their marital conflict. It recalled my belief that unresolved conflicts are like icebergs.

An iceberg is a large piece of freshwater ice that has broken off a glacier or an ice shelf and is floating freely in open salt water. Another name for iceberg is “ice mountain”.
Ninety percent of an iceberg is below the surface and not visible, thus making icebergs serious maritime hazards. The expression “tip of the iceberg”, illustrates a difficulty that is only a small, visible part of a larger, complex problem.
In their case the tip of the conflict was her accusation that he treated […]

I have been saying for several years now that I was going to write a book on growing old gracefully. I’ve never seen anything written on the subject, but that is not to say I’m the first to tackle the subject!

Recently I turned 74 years old. I can honestly say it was THE best birthday I have ever had! I was shown love, honor and respect from so many people in my life. A few years back Rog and I made the decision to buy each other a birthday gift on OUR own birthdays! It has been such magnificent fun. I started out by getting him a lawn blower! Seemed tools were something he could always use. But this year was different. I was able to arrange for him to […]

Posted on March 28, 2019

“THOSE WHO HAVE MOCKED YOU AND SPOKEN AGAINST YOU WILL NOW STAND IN AWE OF MY BLESSING AND FAVOUR UPON YOU!!!”

March 22, 2019

 I believe the Lord is moving on the earth as a Father! Not only that, but I believe we have entered into a season of family reconciliation!

I was in a prayer meeting recently and the Lord began to speak to me about the prophetic season we are in as the Body of Christ and He expanded my understanding of what He is doing on the earth. As you probably know, the Lord has been showing me the cultural side effects of the fatherless generation over the last few months. God spoke to me and said that this season is not just about Him moving as a father, but also about the restoration of earthly families.

I see God releasing a new grace and anointing for broken families to […]

AS A FOLLOW-UP TO MY LAST POST “SHOVELING SNOW AND DANDELIONS” I THOUGHT THAT THIS ARTICLE BY JIM BURNS WAS SPOT ON.  I CERTAINLY FOUND MYSELF IN THIS ONE.  PERHAPS YOU WILL FIND YOURSELF TOO!  ~ Gerri

What Parents Need to Ask Themselves – Are you caring for your adult children or enabling dependency?
By Jim Burns ~ Published by Fox News

Something wakes me up. I look at the clock and it is 2:30 a.m. I then discover what, or rather who, disturbed my sleep. It’s my wife, Cathy. She is just lying there next to me with her eyes wide open.
“What’s up?” I ask. “You okay?”
“Yes, I’m okay,” she says. “I was just thinking about Becca.”
“Is she okay?” I ask.
“I guess so,” Cathy replies. “I just don’t know.”
I give her hand a […]

Many times over the years in prayer ministry we have used the example of the growth of the dandelion. Roger being trained as a horticulture major in college shares so well just how prolific the dandelion becomes when you ‘chop the flower off the top of the plant!’ He says, ‘if you do not dig out the tap root of the dandelion, it only lives to produce more flowers and seed in another day.’ So it is with our strongholds. If we do not get to the root of the stronghold problem, it only remains to live again in our future stronger and more prolific than ever!

If you know anything about my past, you know that I was a queen of co-dependency with my children. Longing to not see them […]