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I recently counseled with a very bright and engaging mid-aged couple. Tom’s a seminary professor and Mary (not their real names) is a psychologist. Despite their intelligence and education, they could not resolve their marital conflict. It recalled my belief that unresolved conflicts are like icebergs.

An iceberg is a large piece of freshwater ice that has broken off a glacier or an ice shelf and is floating freely in open salt water. Another name for iceberg is “ice mountain”.
Ninety percent of an iceberg is below the surface and not visible, thus making icebergs serious maritime hazards. The expression “tip of the iceberg”, illustrates a difficulty that is only a small, visible part of a larger, complex problem.
In their case the tip of the conflict was her accusation that he treated […]

I have been saying for several years now that I was going to write a book on growing old gracefully. I’ve never seen anything written on the subject, but that is not to say I’m the first to tackle the subject!

Recently I turned 74 years old. I can honestly say it was THE best birthday I have ever had! I was shown love, honor and respect from so many people in my life. A few years back Rog and I made the decision to buy each other a birthday gift on OUR own birthdays! It has been such magnificent fun. I started out by getting him a lawn blower! Seemed tools were something he could always use. But this year was different. I was able to arrange for him to […]

Posted on March 28, 2019

“THOSE WHO HAVE MOCKED YOU AND SPOKEN AGAINST YOU WILL NOW STAND IN AWE OF MY BLESSING AND FAVOUR UPON YOU!!!”

March 22, 2019

 I believe the Lord is moving on the earth as a Father! Not only that, but I believe we have entered into a season of family reconciliation!

I was in a prayer meeting recently and the Lord began to speak to me about the prophetic season we are in as the Body of Christ and He expanded my understanding of what He is doing on the earth. As you probably know, the Lord has been showing me the cultural side effects of the fatherless generation over the last few months. God spoke to me and said that this season is not just about Him moving as a father, but also about the restoration of earthly families.

I see God releasing a new grace and anointing for broken families to […]

AS A FOLLOW-UP TO MY LAST POST “SHOVELING SNOW AND DANDELIONS” I THOUGHT THAT THIS ARTICLE BY JIM BURNS WAS SPOT ON.  I CERTAINLY FOUND MYSELF IN THIS ONE.  PERHAPS YOU WILL FIND YOURSELF TOO!  ~ Gerri

What Parents Need to Ask Themselves – Are you caring for your adult children or enabling dependency?
By Jim Burns ~ Published by Fox News

Something wakes me up. I look at the clock and it is 2:30 a.m. I then discover what, or rather who, disturbed my sleep. It’s my wife, Cathy. She is just lying there next to me with her eyes wide open.
“What’s up?” I ask. “You okay?”
“Yes, I’m okay,” she says. “I was just thinking about Becca.”
“Is she okay?” I ask.
“I guess so,” Cathy replies. “I just don’t know.”
I give her hand a […]

Many times over the years in prayer ministry we have used the example of the growth of the dandelion. Roger being trained as a horticulture major in college shares so well just how prolific the dandelion becomes when you ‘chop the flower off the top of the plant!’ He says, ‘if you do not dig out the tap root of the dandelion, it only lives to produce more flowers and seed in another day.’ So it is with our strongholds. If we do not get to the root of the stronghold problem, it only remains to live again in our future stronger and more prolific than ever!

If you know anything about my past, you know that I was a queen of co-dependency with my children. Longing to not see them […]

Recently an article was posted by Shane Idleman, founder and pastor of Westside Christian Fellowship in Southern California.  It is one of the best we have seen written on the topic of women in the pastorate.

In years past we served in a mainline denomination that allowed women to be ordained in pastoral ministry and we served in her church for a time.   Through that experience we saw many of the problems that Shane talks about in this article. We feel he has captured the heart of Father as he writes this well balanced, scriptural approach to this subject.  His article follows.  Blessings,   Roger and Gerri

Let me begin by saying that I know and appreciate many women who have been recognized as pastors. They are diligent, steadfast and hard-working. Our country […]

Sometimes it can creep into our lives with an unwelcome stealth. I would never have conceived that I could be surrounded by a husband, kids, and friends, and yet still feel its clutches suffocating my heart. But there I was, married 10 years, two kids, busier than ever, and yet lonelier than I had ever been. And it seemed to me that my husband was totally oblivious to my needs and more often than not, to me!
He was a good man, co-founder of a megachurch, chaplain for the Detroit Lions, inspiring on stage and a leader of men. Everyone loved him and wanted to follow him but I was left in his dust.
My heart felt bruised and cold like the chilling winds that skate over Lake Michigan in the dead […]