Roger is currently reading a great book by Drs. Cloud and Townsend entitled God Will Make a Way.  The following is a quote from the book taken from the chapter on  marriage and relationship.  We have found the following to be very true not only in our own marriage of nearly 48 years, but also in the marriages that we have had the privilege to speak into. 

“Marriage is the most significant relationship any of us could ever have.  It is a symbol of the relationship God has with his people (Eph. 5:25-33) and is as close as we can get to being ‘one’ with another person.  Because of this, good marriages can be heaven on earth.
…the key to a good marriage is this: being in the marriage – being totally invested, with all the part of yourself, in building and sustaining the union.  A married couple should love each other the same way that we are to love God:  with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength (Mk 12:30).  People who are truly in the marriage, people who are connecting every part possible to their mates- their good parts, bad parts, angry parts, loving parts, weak parts, and strong parts – have the best foundation for a lifetime relationship.”